People often focus on physical fitness, forgetting mental health is just as important, if not more. But for some reason, people often brush it off saying things that diminish how one feels: “It’s just a phase.. you’ll get over it” or “Lighten up you are taking life too seriously” or my personal favourite, “Stop overthinking, you have no reason to worry”. All of these seem like things to say to someone who is feeling “down” or “low” or the scariest word of them all “depressed” – which is, unfortunately, overused, mostly by people who aren’t depressed.
In many Indian families, relationships, friendships, etc. the topic of mental health is often skirted around. I would like to believe this is mainly due to how little awareness there is about it. Or, you have the other kind of people, who refuse to believe that mental illness is a problem: “Get over it, grow up, how is this even a problem?! I’ve been through so much worse.” Yes, the ones who lack empathy will be the first to compare how once upon a time they felt sad and overcame it, therefore, so should you.
When I say mental illness, it just isn’t about feeling sad, it’s about that overwhelming, all encompassing feeling, that somehow manages to take over your life. And it could be triggered by the most ridiculous thing, but somehow sends you into a spiral of negative emotions, which try as you might, just can’t seem to brush off. If someone asks, you can’t seem to explain it either, you can’t pinpoint it to one event, but to everything and nothing, all at once. It’s opaque and messy – as you try to keep afloat, fighting your demons gets exhausting. Especially when no-one else can see them. Don’t expect people to understand, when you barely understand it yourself. But I beg you, don’t you dare diminish the way you are feeling. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Fight your demons yourself, one day at a time, because you know you can, you’ve been there before, and you overcame all that negativity. But don’t let anyone tell you that what you’re feeling is insignificant. If it gets too much to handle yourself, seek help. You go to the doctor when you aren’t feeling well right, why not do the same this time? Why is there such a taboo? Do it for you.


  1. Anonymous · April 25, 2017

    I’m reminded of something; Have you ever heard of a Greek philosopher named Epictetus?
    He was funny man with a certain flare for life. Epictetus compared people who “fit in” to the white threads of a toga. Indistinguishable. He wanted to be the purple thread. “That small part which is bright, and makes all the rest appear graceful and beautiful. Why then” he asked, “do you tell me to make myself like the many? And if I do, how shall I still be purple?”

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    • 3ckthoughtsandthings · April 25, 2017

      No, I had not. But, as they say, you learn something new every day!
      Thanks for this – only the educated are free 🙂


  2. nathaswami · April 19, 2017

    A physically unfit person can still lead a successful life, though he may not be able to serve in the military or the police. But a mentally unsound person cannot lead a meaningful life.

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  3. mumsthewordblog1 · April 19, 2017

    Everyone owes it to themselves to be happy 😃🐻

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